This week I had a terrible experience. Someone I love turned on me. We haven't talked in a long time, and that's not so unusual as you get older. I've asked for pictures and attempted communication on facebook - but had no response. Finally I had to relay a message that was not pleasant. And frankly, I relayed it badly. And by voicemail. I did call back and speak to her husband and apologize and let them know I really didn't mean to be so rude in the delivery.
She won't talk to me. I think probably never.
My first instinct is to try to fix it. This problem. That's what I do - fix things.
But what do you do when it can't be fixed? She believes she is right. Adamant about it. I believe there are two sides to every story and just maybe we are both wrong and both right.
I finally had to decide something. Did I want to be happy, or did I want to be right?
I wished her and her family well, told her I loved her. I doubt if I hear back from her. I chose happy.
As always on this blog I look for ways to tie our personal life into our professional life. Where else in my life am I holding onto something that is no longer working for me? Is there something I think I need to fix - when really, I need to let it go?
picture courtesy of Capture Queen at flickr.com